Have you ever found yourself in a toxic relationship, unable to break free from the cycle of attracting the same type of partner? I’ve had this experience. You may not realize it, but your subconscious mind could be the culprit behind this pattern.

Our subconscious mind influences 95% of our automatic behavior and that includes our relationship choices, often based on past experiences and programming mostly stemming from childhood.

But the good news is we have the power to take control of our subconscious mind and change our relationship patterns for the better.

By harnessing the power of your subconscious mind, you can attract healthy and fulfilling relationships and break free from toxic patterns. It all starts with understanding the toxic relationship pattern and reprogramming the subconscious mind for healing and growth.

Key Takeaways:

  • Our subconscious mind influences 95% of our automatic behavior including relationship choices.
  • Recognizing the toxic relationship pattern is the first step to breaking free from it.
  • Reprogramming the subconscious mind through self-reflection, awareness and seeking help from professionals such as a past life regression hypnotist can lead to healthy relationships.

Understanding the Toxic Relationship Pattern

Have you ever found yourself in a cycle of toxic relationships, wondering why you keep attracting the wrong kind of partner? The answer may lie in your subconscious mind. Our subconscious programming plays a significant role in our choices and behaviors, especially in our relationships.

Many of us have unconscious beliefs and patterns that we’ve picked up from childhood experiences, past traumas, or societal conditioning.

These patterns will get in the way of you attracting your divine counterpart and attract partners who are controlling, emotionally unavailable or even abusive. It’s essential to recognize these patterns to break free from toxic relationships.

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." - Albert Einstein

Breaking the cycle requires understanding of the toxic relationship patterns that’s been playing out in your life. This can look like examining the commonalities between your past partners or recognizing the behaviors that you tend to repeat in relationships.

By identifying these toxic patterns, you can begin to dig deep and figure out where the root cause of the issue is coming from.

Some common patterns found in toxic relationships include:

  • Constant criticism or put-downs
  • Emotional manipulation or control
  • Hot and cold behavior or inconsistency
  • Disrespect for boundaries
  • Blaming and deflecting responsibility
  • Gaslighting

These patterns are deeply rooted in the subconscious mind, making them challenging to break free from. However, recognizing them is the first step in the healing process.

Letting Go of Toxic Patterns

I know how difficult it can be to break free from toxic relationships. I’ve been there before, and I understand the pain and frustration that comes with it. But I also know that it’s possible to let go of those toxic patterns and attract healthy, supportive and fulfilling relationships.

The first step is to recognize the toxic behaviors and patterns that are holding you back. This requires a significant amount of self-reflection and awareness.

It may be helpful to seek the guidance of a transformational coach or a past life regression hypnotist to help you identify these behaviors and work through them.

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"Toxic patterns often stem from deep-seated emotional wounds that need to be addressed and healed."

Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind for Healthy Relationships

Now that you understand the impact of your subconscious mind on your relationships, it’s time to take action and harness its power for positive change.

Here are some techniques and exercises to help you reprogram your subconscious mind and attract healthy partners:


Visualize yourself in a healthy and loving relationship. Close your eyes and imagine every detail, from the way your partner makes you feel to the activities you enjoy together.

Allow yourself to feel the emotions associated with this relationship. Repeat this visualization exercise daily to reinforce positive beliefs and attract a healthy partner.


Create positive and empowering affirmations to replace negative beliefs. For example, “I am worthy of love and respect,” “I attract healthy relationships,” or “I am whole and complete and have the power to attract my vibrational match.”

Repeat these affirmations daily, either aloud or in your mind, to reprogram your subconscious mind and attract healthy relationships.


Meditation is a powerful technique I use to help calm my mind and gives me quick access to my subconscious. Set aside time each day to meditate and focus on positive intentions for your relationships.

As you meditate, visualize yourself in a healthy and loving relationship and allow positive emotions to surface. With consistent practice, meditation can help you reprogram your subconscious mind and attract healthy relationships.

Creating Positive Beliefs

Identify negative beliefs and thought patterns that are holding you back from healthy relationships. Replace them with positive and empowering beliefs, such as “I am worthy of love and respect,” “I trust my intuition in choosing partners,” or “I am capable of creating healthy relationships.”

Developing positive beliefs is a powerful way to reprogram your subconscious mind and attract healthy relationships.

Watch my video with a quick and powerful exercise to help you feel empowered!

Surround Yourself with Positive Energy

Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Seek out positive energy and avoid toxic relationships or situations that drain your energy. Attract and manifest healthy love by creating a positive and supportive environment.

Practice Forgiveness

One of the most powerful techniques for healing from past toxic relationships is to practice forgiveness. I cannot emphasize this enough. This does not mean condoning the behavior of the other person but rather releasing the emotional baggage associated with the experience.

Holding onto resentment and anger will only continue to attract negative experiences into your life.

Final Thoughts

You have everything inside of you to change your relationship patterns and attract healthy partners. By channeling the power of your subconscious mind, you can let go of toxic patterns and cultivate fulfilling relationships.

Trust in your ability to create positive change and know that you deserve love and happiness in your ALL your relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions

A: The subconscious mind stores our past experiences, beliefs, and emotions, which shape our thoughts and behaviors. When it comes to relationships, our subconscious programming can lead us to repeat patterns and attract toxic partners unconsciously.

A: Toxic relationships often involve patterns of manipulation, control, emotional abuse, and lack of respect. These patterns can stem from unresolved issues in our past and subconscious programming that keeps us stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

A: Reprogramming the subconscious mind requires self-reflection, awareness, and intentional practices. Techniques such as affirmations, visualization, and meditation can help change negative beliefs and attract healthy partners.

A: Letting go of toxic patterns requires self-love, self-care, and forgiveness. It’s important to release emotional baggage, set boundaries, and prioritize personal growth. Surrounding yourself with a support system is a tremendous help in this process.

A: You can harness the power of your subconscious mind through visualization exercises, affirmations, and meditation. Seeking the help of a past life regression hypnotist is also recommended.

By consistently practicing these techniques, you can create positive and empowering beliefs that will attract healthy partners into your life.

A: The main takeaway is that you have the power to change your relationship patterns by accessing the power of your subconscious mind. By recognizing toxic patterns, letting go of unhealthy behaviors, and reprogramming your subconscious, you can stop attracting toxic partners and create a healthy, loving, happy and fulfilling relationship.