Even during the most challenging times, it’s important to remember that you are capable of doing hard things. Divorce is one of those painful, gut-wrenching situations that shakes you to your very core. At least that’s what it did to me.
As difficult as my divorce was, it provided the greatest opportunity for growth. I am still in disbelief when I look at my life today and compare it to how it looked back then when I was so incredibly broken. I had no idea the amount of self-discovery and expansion this blessing in disguise, called divorce, would bring.
As a divorced woman, your worth is not defined by your marital status. You are beautiful, strong, resilient and capable, and it’s time to rediscover your worth, reclaim your power and embrace this magnificent new chapter in life. Here are five tips to help you get started:
- Rebuilding self-esteem is crucial to rediscovering your worth after divorce.
- Focusing on personal growth will help you embrace a new chapter in life.
- Embracing change and rebuilding confidence will help you find your self-worth.
- Healing emotionally and mentally is an essential part of the recovery process.
- Nurturing self-love and empowerment will create a foundation for personal growth.
Embracing Change and Rebuilding Confidence
Going through a divorce can shatter your confidence and make you feel completely lost. That’s exactly what happened to me when I discovered that my ex-husband was having an affair. It took many years of trial and error, along with painful lessons from the universe, for me to find my way back to my true self.
When I set out to reclaim my life after divorce, I knew I had what it takes to rebuild. You do too. Remind yourself that you are capable of rebuilding confidence and finding your self-worth again. Embracing change is a crucial step in this process.
It’s normal to feel scared or unsure when facing change, especially after a major life event like divorce. You must shift your perspective that change brings new opportunities for growth and self-discovery. You can start by identifying areas in your life where you want to see change and taking small steps toward those goals.
One of the most important aspects of embracing change is rebuilding your self-confidence.
To do this, start by taking care of yourself both physically and mentally. I can’t stress enough the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle by working out consistently, eating well, managing stress, and getting enough sleep (sleep is so underrated!). This will create the alignment you need to keep moving forward.
If you haven’t done it yet, try taking up a new hobby or learning a new skill. Engaging in activities that challenge you and bring you joy will help you regain confidence and a sense of purpose. It’s also important to surround yourself with positive and supportive people.
Make sure to spend time with friends and family who uplift you and make you feel good about yourself. Cut out anyone or anything that brings negativity or toxic energy into your life.
Finding Self-Worth and Self-Discovery After Divorce
Another important aspect of rebuilding confidence is finding your self-worth. This can be a challenging process and it takes time, but there are several strategies you can use to help you along the way.
First, take time to reflect on your values and beliefs. What is important to you? What do you want to achieve in your life? By asking yourself these types of questions, you have the power to unlock your full potential by discovering your strengths and areas where you can grow.
Seeking therapy or transformational coaching is another brave and courageous step towards achieving greater self-awareness and personal growth.
Personal Growth Post-Divorce
No matter what painful emotions come up, embrace personal growth as an opportunity to rebuild your confidence and find your self-worth after divorce. I was in this space for a very long time and had no idea when the darkness would pass. I held onto my faith that one day the dots would connect, and all my pain and suffering would serve a greater purpose.
Start glowing up yourself and your life by setting goals, both short-term and long-term, and track your progress along the way. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. Every step you take on your personal growth journey is a step towards a better you.
Even when you want to give up (and trust me, you will), you must keep moving forward, even if it’s just baby steps. Make sure you appreciate the journey just as much as the destination. Be patient with yourself and allow room for setbacks and mistakes. Every step you take toward personal growth is casting a vote for your new and fulfilling life post-divorce.
Healing and Self-Love
It’s no surprise that one of the most important aspects of moving forward after a divorce is healing. You will know you’ve healed when you no longer feel the same intense emotions in your body as you did when your divorce first happened.
It’s natural to experience a range of emotions during this time, including sadness, anger, and confusion. For me, resentment was the biggest one. Be patient with yourself and accept that it will take time and a lot of self-love to process these feelings and begin the healing journey.
The first step in the healing process is allowing yourself to feel your emotions. Don’t try to suppress or ignore them because they will resurface later with vengeance. Work with each emotion as if you’ve chosen it. Acknowledge and accept them, then give yourself the time and space you need to process them.
"Healing is not a destination, but a journey. It takes time, patience, self-love and self-compassion."
Self-love and empowerment are also crucial to the healing process. After a divorce, it’s common to struggle with self-esteem and self-worth. By practicing self-love, you can boost your confidence and develop a more positive self-image. Listen to my empowering affirmations to help get you started.
One way to practice self-love is to make time for self-care. No matter how busy you are, you must prioritize it for your mental health. This can include activities like exercising, meditating, or spending time with loved ones. By prioritizing your needs and well-being, you are proving to yourself that you’re worth the love and care you deserve.
I thought I knew who I was up until my divorce. The truth is, I was so disconnected from myself that I didn’t even know what color paint I liked for my home. I never had a chance to get to know myself because I was with my ex-husband since I was 19 years old.
Reconnecting with the truth of who you are is one of the most important aspects of healing after a divorce. My journey to my true self was long and arduous.
Despite speaking to three different therapists, I still didn’t feel supported and always felt like something was missing. This is the reason why I’m so passionate about helping my clients because I was once there.
Taking the time to rediscover yourself creates a stronger sense of self and identity. One way to rediscover your self-identity is to try new things. This can include hobbies, travel, or even a new career. By exploring new opportunities, you can learn more about yourself and what you enjoy.
"Rediscovering your self-identity is a liberating experience. It allows you to embrace your authentic self unapologetically and build a life that’s true for you."
It’s important to surround yourself with positive influences. Spend time with people who support and encourage you to be the best version of yourself. By surrounding yourself with positivity, you can stay focused and inspired.
Divorce is a challenging journey, but it has the potential for your greatest growth and self-discovery. I have leveled up myself, my life, and my children’s lives in profound ways; it feels like I’ve lived many lifetimes.
Divorce may have caused you pain and disrupted your life, but it does not define you. By taking the time to heal, rediscovering you worth, and building a strong support system, you can create a new life filled with love, happiness, and purpose.
Know that you are worthy and capable of achieving anything you set your mind to. Keep rising!